Harris Fanaroff

Self-Regard: Emotional Intelligence & Coronavirus

The first element I want to tackle with regard to improving our emotional intelligence during coronavirus is self-regard. Self-regard as defined by the EQi 2.0 as “the ability and tendency for you – in full light of both your positive and negative qualities – to both like and have confidence in yourself.” With too little self-regard, you see yourself as inadequate and inferior, unworthy of nurturance and the positive things that life has to offer. You are often self-doubting, self-critical, unhappy or insecure about yourself with a low self-regard. Self-regard is rooted in our self-esteem, self-confidence, pride, and self-respect.

There’s a lot about self-regard that can be related to our working lives and coronavirus. The biggest thing I think individuals will miss through consistent telework for an extended period of time is a lack of consistent feedback, and more importantly positive feedback. We will no longer be able to receive the instant feedback walking back to our desk after a well-executed presentation, or hear that “great job” after a meeting with our boss. Additionally, with a down economy comes less business for most organizations, so therefore less opportunities to do our work and do it well.

               So, here are the three tips you can implement immediately to work on your self-regard:

  1. Now more than ever, it’s important to decorate your physical space with symbols of past success and evidence of your skill and previous success. We are isolated, and that can cause feelings of loneliness and lower self-worth, so it’s important to give yourself reminders of the great work that you’ve done in the past.
  2. Surround yourself or put time in your day for positive people who you know support and affirm your strengths.
  3. Set a goal, perhaps one that is relatively easy to hit, and then acknowledge it to yourself when you accomplish it. This can be as basic as completing your 8 minute abs video every day.