The third element I’m going to tackle with regard to improving our emotional intelligence during coronavirus is emotional self-awareness. Emotional self-awareness is defined by the EQi 2.0 as “the degree to which you are in touch with your feelings and emotions, are able to distinguish one emotion from another, and understand why that emotion has resulted. Mindfulness, self-consciousness and reflection are all rooted in our emotional self-awareness. Someone with low emotional self-awareness can come across as emotionally immature, in denial of their own feelings, and often being misunderstood and misunderstanding others.
Emotional self-awareness and the coronavirus are incredibly well linked. We are all experiencing a ton of different emotions through this pandemic – scared, worried, frightened, tense, stressed, and even sometimes happy (to be spending extra time with loved ones) or grateful (for having good health). It’s important to be aware of these different emotions so that we do not go on auto-pilot and let them hijack our lives. Taking time to understand our emotions, why we may be feeling them, understanding it’s okay to feel a certain way, and differentiating these emotions can be incredibly beneficial during a time like this.
With that being said, I wanted to share three tips you can implement immediately to work on your emotional self-awareness:
- Begin to explore and then reflect/note down what your emotional triggers are. If there’s a certain person or expression that gives you a certain emotion, become aware of that and make note of it. Understanding that someone or something is causing you to feel a certain way can help you make adjustments in your life.
- Take a journal and spend 2-3 minutes three times a day writing about how you are feeling at that moment. Become curious about your mood and feelings. Perhaps there are certain times in the day when you’re feeling one way vs another. When we are aware of our feelings and why they are caused, we are less likely to ignore them.
- Before a conversation or group event, identify at least three things that could happen to make you feel happy, frustrated, and proud.