The fourth element I’m going to tackle in this week’s post with regard to improving our emotional intelligence is emotional expression. Emotional expression is defined by the EQi 2.0 as “the degree to which you share, communicate, and remain transparent with your feelings and emotions.” Transparency, authenticity, and openness are all rooted in emotional expression. Someone with low emotional expression tends to not share or communicate their emotions which can yield feedback that they are emotionally unaware, distrusted, or detached.
Emotional expression plays a big role in our new reality of the coronavirus. No doubt we are all facing an incredible amount of different emotions throughout the days, weeks, and months that this continues to go on. If you are somebody that keeps all those emotions in, it can come off like you are unaware of the broader situation we are all facing. It’s important during this time to be transparent about those feelings, naming them, and understanding it’s okay to have those certain emotions.
With that being said, I wanted to share three specific ways we can improve our emotional expression:
- Verbalize your feelings in conversations – “I’m acting this way because I’m really afraid that this project isn’t going to work out.”
- Make a concerted effort to reflect your emotional state in your face (happy, nervous, frustrated, etc.)
- Make sure that when you are sharing your emotional state that your tone matches that same emotion you are claiming to have.